Written and presented by Miguel A. Hernandez
Why will no one hire me?
After so many setbacks in the job hunting process: one can easily fall into the traps, temptations, and the desperations, that ultimately break you down when rejection hits you. What’s to be said about this conundrum? Idk…
If I had to take a guess – I would say that maybe the company one applies for, senses the impending/repelling frustration and desperation raining down upon them three states away (but that would be my guess). However, after all the ‘hoop jumping’ – at some point: it becomes dehumanizing. Going through the entire steps; all the motions; repeating the cycle time after time again; waiting for a phone call; waiting for the eager interview (eager for any kind of response). In the end: in all honesty: it just becomes really humiliating. The thought of relying on other people’s responses for your livelihood and position of economic security becomes humiliating. You go through the grueling process of applying for jobs you know your perfectly qualified for. Your not looking to waste anybody’s time, you just want to work but no one wants to hire you! “you don’t have the experience,” they say.
So, how do you get the experience? *insert head shrug*
I hate the feeling of having something to prove to people I’m not familiar with; people that I don’t know (I hate that!). I hate the feeling of having to rely on a feeble email to get any sense of hope. And, when they do contact you – it’s to tell you that they have found someone else; while at the same time, they try keeping you in the reserve pool of candidates, by asking if you’ll stay.
“Won’t you stay? You could have second pick if you remain in the pool of applicants,”
They suggest it with such conviction in their tone. (The Fucking Bastards)
No thank you!
I really hate this entire process.
It’s a dehumanizing and humiliating act of blindly giving all these unknown strangers my last bit of hope: so they can mishandle it and crash it down the tubes. This feeling (of the last bit of hope) is a feeling that keeps you warm at night and to just blindly hand it over is akin to being on your last 10$ and handing it a greedy scum investor (who promises to make you rich) then fucks you over by spending your last dollar. Because honestly – that’s all these people do at the end of the day, they make promises and don’t deliver!“oh, come apply with us you’ll get x number of cash, x amount of benefits and you’ll receive a new company car, a bright red mercedes!“
So, in a pool of 70 applicants for one job position only one of us gets the benefits and sometimes it’s not even based out of merit or top qualities. Nepotism or any other factors that influence the hiring decision are important. (but that’s a discussion for another day because I frankly don’t care and NOT invested enough to complain about it because it is what it is! Even after seeing people you personally know totally being hired at this company that you know they aren’t qualified for getting the job!) Nope, it doesn’t warrant my attention, because I frankly don’t care at this point and the level of investment I have is only redeemable enough for one long ass rant! I’m not complaining! It’s more bitching than anything!
The thing I hate the most, is the fact that they send you this beautiful little message to sugar coat the fact that you really weren’t good enough for them; and they do this, because they don’t want to hurt your feelings! Because they don’t want to be that one company who hurts their candidates feelings (because in this day in age feelings is all anyone cares about!). Me?
I would rather prefer the nasty over the nice.
The ugly over the pretty.
Honesty over inauthenticity.
The unapologetic truth: That you are not worth it and we don’t fucking want you here.
Seeing as my ranting credits are almost gone and I only redeemed enough for one – I want to stay true to my core message and focus on bringing this tirade of a ship show to an end (Slowly bringing it in; slowly into the docks) bringing an end my beautiful melancholic crescendo. I made the claim that this was not about complaining and I want to stay true to that.
In my ending argument, I want to highlight the most important point I got from this, and looking at it from a different perspective: how I could use this trainwreck of a life lesson to benefit me in my future endeavors going forward. One could easily lose their marbles and take this personal and brake down like a 77′ pinto with a bad transmission and faulty oil leaks. But it’s Important to be fluid enough in your emotions to shift between perspectives to recognize the good, bad, and ugly and what you can draw out of this lesson to benefit you going forward. Because to be honest, as much as many of us would like to look at things in a prettier light: they still end up looking like fucking shit. If you own a 77′ pinto no matter from what perspective you look at it – you still own a POS car! It’s not the shiny car that matters, rather, what is important, is what you can draw out of that experience and perspective, that can benefit you in life. I think for me as an aspiring entrepreneur, I can look at it from a different light and realize just how dependent I’ve become on a single employer. I think it’s to my detriment and seeing that I don’t want to be in that position (because I see myself in a position where I am financially free and stable), that could be done by having an ample amount of money invested in a savings account. What ends up happening, is the career hunting no longer becomes about ‘finding a better opportunity’, but rather, it takes a more sinister form that typically requires much patience and makes you into a desperate person. It ends up giving every last ounce of hope to the unknown strangers at the top, who are making the decisions on whether they want to hire you or not.
I fucking hate that feeling.
The feeling of powerlessness and being reliant on someone or something else to give you that sense of ‘ok, everything is going to be ok!’ (that certainty). From an Entrepreneurial standpoint: if one becomes too reliant on one source of income: it increases your chances of growing more desperate. From a more pragmatic approach, I think looking at it from a different scope, it could have been a great thing, because it opened my eyes on how truly dependent and often times desperate I was on that single employer.
Going forward, I don’t every want to experience ever again.
It’s not the company’s fault that I’m in the position I am or as desperate as I am for money, because a lot of this could have been avoided had I invested and focused on growing a healthy savings account (Sure, I may have run out at some point), but I can assure you I wouldn’t have been as desperate as I was. Bam.. since I’m on a roll, here goes another one: another benefit I could draw from this is to take control and launch my entrepreneurial ventures. I would not be reliant on any single employer for money and I could work on side gigs to lean away from relying on the ‘conventional ‘paycheck.’
I don’t ever want to experience this again – ever!
Things might get worse before they get better, but I feel confident going forward. I recognize that from an entrepreneurial standpoint: i’m actually glad that I was rejected because maybe – I would have fallen in that same pit of dependence that I’ve been in year after year; Side hustles, strong investment savings, emergency funds, diversified investments – all move you away from the conventional paycheck and away from that pits of dependence. So, in a way I’m glad that happened because I would have not seen this if not for the constant rejection.
In Summary: Too much dependence on the employer is no good, because the key to financial growth is through Independence. Taking matters into my own hands (starting a business, side hustles, part time job to make money) – I would be so much MORE in control of my financial health and in my career. And, even after so much rejection: I finally have the permission that I have been seeking to finally grant myself.
If I decided to take control of my life in this manner and move towards Independence – would I be calm and collected or would I lose my marbles if any employer decided not to hire me?
I don’t think I would.
I would be too focused on myself that things like “Why won’t they hire me?’, doesn’t even become an issue anymore – It just melts away.
— Here’s to a brighter future of Independence and Financial Freedom.